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10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 February 23rd
...See more Hi everyone, We are excited to announce the "10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event", which is kicking off on Monday, the 19th of February, as part of the International Boost Self-Esteem Month.  For ten days, we will explore self-esteem as a community. There will be daily prompts focusing on the different aspects of self-esteem, encouraging you to share your personal stories, insights, and experiences while learning new techniques and tips from our community. The event is designed to help us all understand the importance of self-esteem, boost our confidence, appreciate our worth, and inspire each other in the process. Are you ready to explore, learn, participate and grow on this self-esteem journey? If so, save the dates and meet us in the Special Events group support room.  Event Details - open to both adult listeners and members: Adults Location: Special Events Room Time: Open 24/7 between 19 Feb - 28 Feb. You can check-in at any time! To show interest in this event and be informed of future events, please fill out this form. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe31pGvZDW8_aa8Cb8ywz4lOCpy4lkS5kekzsFXILwv3QQSjw/viewform]
stand tall
by Kait
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more I struggle with self doubt. I am sure I am not the only one. I often find inspiration in nature and came across this photo. Here is my affirmation of the day, you are welcomed to repeat the affirmation (in your head, out loud, or in a reply post) if you feel called to do so.  Today I stand tall & confident, like a strong tree, despite weathering many storms, I cannot be knocked down. 
Any Advice?
by OverthinkingCapypara
Last post
 12 hours ago
...See more I want to start building my self-esteem but I am not sure how I would start. Self-esteem has been a problem for me since around 4th grade and I am in 8th grade now, This whole thing started when someone commented on my weight and that's when I started feeling self conscious about my weight but I didn't really do anything to change it until now, right now I am just changing my diet because I can't really go to the gym, but yeah that's my thing. If you have any advice to how I can build my self esteem than that would be greatly appreciated. ☺️
Building Self-esteem: Uplifting Others
by Hope
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hey everyone! It is time for a new post in our Building Self-esteem series. Can you believe it is already week 6? Continuing our exploration of self-esteem, let's dive into a secret weapon often overlooked: uplifting others.  Why the positive feedback loop? Think about it: when you make someone's day with a genuine compliment, a helping hand, or simply a listening ear, it creates a ripple effect. You witness the impact of your actions, reaffirming your own value and capabilities. It's like looking in a mirror reflecting kindness back at you. But how do I start "uplifting" in real life? The beauty lies in everyday moments: * Compliment a classmate on their unique style or insightful comment. A little validation goes a long way! It needs to be genuine though! * Volunteer your time for a cause you care about. Witnessing the positive change you contribute to strengthens your sense of purpose. * Offer genuine support to a friend facing a challenge. Being there for someone reinforces your inner strength and empathy. It helps you find purpose * Pay attention to small gestures. Holding the door open, offering a helping hand with groceries, or simply leaving a positive note – these micro-actions pack a punch. * Remember, it's all about aligning your actions with your core values. What truly matters to you? Helping animals? Advocating for social justice? Protecting the environment? Find opportunities to uplift others in ways that connect to your passions. This authenticity further amplifies the self-esteem boost.  Building self-esteem on 7 Cups 7 Cups is also a great platform to help uplift others. Some ways you can do this on 7 Cups is: * Taking the time to listen to someone’s story in a group setting * Going to the needs reply queue and answering posts that resonate with you.  * Providing active listening support to a member as a listener * Creating a forum post on a cause that matters to you and engaging with the people who comment.  * Taking on a leadership role that aligns with your passion and values.  Volunteering: The ultimate confidence superpower? Studies show that volunteering significantly increases self-esteem and life satisfaction. Immersing yourself in a cause bigger than yourself cultivates a sense of purpose, belonging, and mastery. Plus, the skills you gain and the connections you make can open doors to future opportunities. Bonus Tip! If you are unsure what activity/services suit you best, then the core values exercise we did in the past can be of help. Look through the values you deem as most important and try and find activities that help you practice that value. If you can’t, then move to the important values.  Task of the week For the next 7 days (preferably more) every day when you wake up, start your day with the intention that you will intend to do at least one good today. Look for that opportunity throughout the day. It can look like: * Baking cookies for your family * Donating to a charity of choice * Giving a ride home to your friend/co-worker * Helping someone with their groceries.  I am confident that most of us already do good on 7 Cups so that is why you are encouraged to find opportunities offline for this specific activity.  Do your act of kindness/service for today and share with us how it made you feel. (You can choose to keep the act hidden or share it).  Please note this is a required activity if you are working towards the braving self badge. You will be asked what activity you did for 7 days that was focused outwards.  Attention! Next week our post will focus on learning from others' experiences. If you wish to share your own experience and tips on how to build self-esteem in terms of what worked for you, please reach out to me asap so you can be featured in the post.  ------------------------- This post is part of the Building Self-esteem series! You can find all the posts of the series linked here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/BuildingSelfesteemSeriesOngoingActive_321259/]
Building Self-esteem series: The role of Accountability
by Hope
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well. Thank you for following our building self-esteem series. This week’s topic is the role of accountability in building self-esteem.  If you are wondering why accountability is relevant to this series,  think of it like this: when you blame others or shrug off mistakes, you give away control. But when you step up and say "I own this," something magical happens. You transform from a passive observer to an active player in your own life, Ultimately, through enough practice,  challenges become opportunities, mistakes become stepping stones, and goals become achievements you know you can reach. How does a lack of accountability impact self-esteem? * Blaming others or circumstances for your setbacks creates a feeling of powerlessness and hinders your ability to learn and grow.  * Avoiding responsibility for your actions, both good and bad, can fuel negative self-talk and self-doubt. * Without accountability, goals often remain just wishful thinking. The absence of progress and tangible achievements weakens your belief in your ability to follow through and succeed * Lack of accountability can erode trust in your personal and professional relationships.  * All of these things result in diminishing your self-esteem.  What happens when you start to hold yourself and others accountable? * Accepting responsibility for your actions fosters a sense of control over your life. You become the driver, not the passenger, leading to increased confidence and self-belief. * When you own up to your mistakes, you create opportunities for growth and improvement. * Accountability helps you stay committed, track progress, and celebrate your achievements, reinforcing your belief in your capabilities. * It helps you stick to your core values and that helps build self-esteem * Setting clear expectations fosters a sense of fairness and reduces confusion.  * Addressing issues directly and fairly with accountability helps resolve conflicts constructively. Let's see how this plays out in some real-life scenarios.  * Sarah recognizes that excessive social media scrolling negatively impacts her mood and self-worth. She sets a daily limit and holds herself accountable by using apps or tracking tools. This conscious effort empowers her to take control of her time and attention, improving her mood and boosting her self-esteem. Mark mindlessly scrolls through social media for hours, comparing himself to others and feeling inadequate. He lacks the awareness or accountability to break the cycle, further impacting his self-perception and well-being. Both have the same issue but their approach differs and therefore the outcome.  * Sarah, valuing honesty, admits a mistake at work, takes responsibility for its consequences, and proposes solutions. This builds trust and respect, strengthening her self-worth through integrity. Mark, fearing judgment, covers up a minor error. This creates anxiety and distrust, damaging his self-esteem and potentially leading to bigger issues. Remember this quote by Tony Robbins ‘By changing nothing, nothing changes’  How to get started on exercising accountability? * Begin with achievable tasks, like waking up on time or completing a small workout three times a week.  * Use a journal, app, or even sticky notes to monitor your progress towards goals. Seeing your efforts visualized provides a sense of accomplishment and motivates you to stay on track. * Mistakes are inevitable. Instead of dwelling on them, analyze what went wrong and use it as a learning opportunity.  * Share your progress with a supportive friend/family member or a mentor. You can even make a forum post on 7 Cups to keep yourself accountable and keep on adding to it.  Remember that accountability closely relates to your core values. Using these two together can greatly improve your self-esteem. For example, if your core value is truthfulness, then you will make an effort to remain truthful and assist others when possible in doing the same.  Activity (Required participation for those who are working towards the braving self badge) Reflect on one area of your life that you can improve upon in terms of accountability. This can be holding yourself accountable or others accountable for not treating you the way you wish to be treated.  Examples of such areas: * Exercise/fitness goals * Mental health goals * Educational/work goals * Career growth goals * Core values strengthening Once you have identified an area where you can benefit from accountability, reflect on 3 steps you can take to keep yourself accountable the same. Make sure these steps are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound.  Example: Alex wishes to become more physically active. He narrows this down to meeting 8000 steps daily. This is achievable for him as he does some walking but not consistently or enough.  * He decides that he will go for a 30-minute walk first thing in the morning and sets his alarms for it. He then tells his wife to wake him up even if he wishes to sleep in.  * He buys a smart watch/fitness tracker to keep track of his steps. * He also starts to part furthest away from his office in terms of parking and walks to his office.  * He avoids the lift and takes the stairs.  * In his afternoon lunch break, he goes for a 10 minute walk after lunch. He tells his co-workers about his fitness goals.  ------------------------- This post is part of the Building Self-esteem series! You can find all the posts of the series linked here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/BuildingSelfesteemSeriesOngoingActive_321259/]
Building Self-esteem Series: The Fear of Failure
by LisaMeighanMScGMBPsS
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi there, I hope you have enjoyed Hope’s Building Self-esteem Series as much as I have! Today, I wanted to open up a discussion about something we all face at some point in our lives: the fear of failure. It doesn’t matter who we are, what job we do, or how well we feel we have worked on our personal growth. It's a universal experience that can hold us back from reaching our full potential, both personally and professionally. However, I believe that by sharing our experiences and incorporating therapeutic techniques, we can overcome this fear and pave the way for personal growth. Understanding the Fear of Failure Firstly, let's acknowledge that the fear of failure is completely normal. It's a part of the human experience, and almost everyone has felt it at some point. Whether it's starting a new project, taking on a challenging task, or pursuing a dream, that little voice of doubt can creep in and make us question our abilities. We may even struggle with an internal critic that constantly holds us back with our negative internal dialogue and if you want some tips on how to quieten this voice please read here.  [https://www.7cups.com/experts/article/how-to-silence-your-inner-critic] Developing a Growth Mindset: One powerful therapeutic technique to combat the fear of failure is cultivating a growth mindset. The growth mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and hard work. Instead of seeing challenges as insurmountable obstacles, individuals with a growth mindset view them as opportunities to learn and grow. Instead of avoiding challenges or not attending to them all together, the growth mindset teaches you to work through those challenges, to go with the river, [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/GlensNookCommunity_547/TheRiver_296728/] and to see what you can learn on your journey! Practical Steps for Developing a Growth Mindset: * Embrace Challenges: Rather than avoiding difficult tasks, actively seek out challenges. This can help reframe your perspective and view challenges as stepping stones to improvement. * Learn from Criticism: Constructive criticism is a valuable tool for growth. Instead of taking it personally which can sometimes happen, use it as feedback for improvement. Remember, even the most successful people faced setbacks and criticism on their journey. You are not alone and gradually it gets easy when you are able to invite constructive criticism. It takes practice and self-compassion to be able to learn from constructive criticism.  * Celebrate Effort, Not Just Success: Shift the focus from end results to the effort you put in. Acknowledge your hard work and dedication, regardless of the outcome. This helps build resilience and perseverance and is one of the key ways to overcome the fear of failure. * View Setbacks as Learning Opportunities: When things don't go as planned, ask yourself what you can learn from the experience. Failure is not the end but rather a chance to refine your approach and try again with newfound knowledge. Sharing Your Experiences: I'd love to hear from you all. Have you faced the fear of failure? How did you manage it, and did you try any therapeutic techniques like developing a growth mindset? Sharing our stories can be both cathartic and inspirational for others going through similar struggles. Remember, we're all in this together, and every setback is a chance to grow stronger. Let's create a supportive space to discuss, learn, and conquer the fear of failure as a community! Looking forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences that you feel comfortable sharing.  Photo by Sammie Chaffin [https://unsplash.com/@sammiechaffin?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash] on Unsplash [https://unsplash.com/photos/person-jumping-on-big-rock-under-gray-and-white-sky-during-daytime-Zdf3zn5XXtU?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash]
Building self-esteem: Value clarification
by Hope
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hey Everyone, I hope you are doing well. In the past week, we talked about working on our self-esteem using the FAST method. One of the most important points of the fast method is sticking to your values. But some of us may not know what values to stick to, not everyone has reflected on this. If you are a religious person, you will likely know what values matter to you and they are typically rooted in your beliefs. But if you don’t believe in some specific way of living, you may need to reflect on the values that matter to you and this post will help you do so.  Welcome to the world of understanding core values! These are the fundamental beliefs and principles that guide our decisions, define our priorities, and ultimately fuel our self-esteem. Think of them as your internal compass, pointing you towards a life that feels authentic and fulfilling. So, what do core values look like? They're not always grand or flashy goals. They can be simple things like: * Honesty: Always wanting to be truthful and upfront, even when it's tough. * Kindness: Showing compassion and care towards others, big and small. * Creativity: Embracing your unique ways of thinking and expressing yourself. * Adventure: Seeking out new experiences and challenges to grow and learn. * Balance: Making time for what matters most – work, relationships, and personal well-being. * Remember, your core values are YOURS. They are what makes you, you! But how do you get in touch with these hidden gems? Here are a few tips: * Introspection Time: Take some quiet moments to reflect. Ask yourself: What truly brings me joy? What makes me feel proud? What stands out as important to me, even when things get tough? * Life Audit: Examine your choices and habits. Do they align with your gut feeling of what's right? Does your everyday life reflect your priorities? * Values in Action: Think about situations where you felt strongly, either positive or negative. What values were at play? This can reveal hidden priorities you may not have noticed. * Seek Inspiration: Read biographies, watch movies, or talk to people you admire. How do their values shape their lives? See if any resonate with you. To help you further explore the values that truly matter to you, we will do a short exercise. Reflect on the following values * Integrity: Doing the right thing, even when it's hard. * Empathy: Feeling what others feel and caring deeply. * Gratitude: Appreciating what you have and saying thank you. * Resilience: Bouncing back from challenges and never giving up. * Curiosity: Asking questions and wanting to learn more. * Humility: Knowing your limits and valuing others' contributions. * Sustainability: Caring for the planet and living responsibly. * Authenticity: Being true to yourself and living with purpose. * Collaboration: Working together and achieving shared goals. * Accountability: Taking responsibility for your actions. * Passion: Chasing what ignites your soul. * Open-mindedness: Embracing different perspectives and ideas. Activity: Sort the above-mentioned 12 values into three piles, the values that are most important, those that are important and the ones that are least important. You can leave out the definitions when sorting, they are there just to help you understand what each value means Participation in the activity is required for those who are working towards the braving self badge and intend to complete the entire series.  This post is part of the Building Self-esteem series! You can find all the posts of the series linked here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/BuildingSelfesteemSeriesOngoingActive_321259/]
Building Self-esteem Series: The FAST way
by Hope
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. Last week we talked about what is self-esteem and what it impacts. We had quite a few responses where people shared how they can benefit from an increase in self-esteem, reflecting on how self-esteem plays a role in the success of people they look up to. You can participate in the post here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfesteem/BuildingSelfesteemseries_2655/BuildingSelfesteemSelfesteemandallthatitimpacts_321258/] This week we will explore one way we can start working on improving our self-esteem. It is the FAST method, rooted in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. What is interesting about this approach is that it allows you to make decisions when faced with everyday choices to ultimately improve your self-esteem by being true to yourself.  FAST Acronym * F is for Fair – Be fair to yourself as well as other people. It’s important to learn that your needs are just as important as someone else’s. This is also about being assertive and learning to speak your truth. * A is for Authentic – Don’t apologize for having an opinion or disagreeing with others. This does not mean you have to be rude to others but you can disagree respectfully.  * S is for Stick to your values -  Don’t compromise or abandon your values trying to please others or conform. * T is for Truthful - Be truthful and don’t make excuses. Be honest and don’t exaggerate or tell little white lies. Here are some more narrowed-down examples/applications: * F (Fairness):  Someone in your group keeps making plans without considering your availability. Speak up! Suggest alternative times or activities that include everyone's preferences. Remember, your needs matter too. * A (Authentic): Don't be afraid to show your true feelings, whether it's sadness, anger, or joy. Bottling up emotions can be unhealthy. If a friend upsets you, you are allowed to express it. If they did something great, you are encouraged to recognize it.  * S (Sticking to values): Spend time working with a cause you care about, like animal welfare or environmental protection. Contributing to something bigger than yourself aligns with your values and builds self-worth. * T (Truthfulness):  If you disagree with someone's idea, be honest and provide constructive feedback. Offer alternative solutions while remaining respectful of their perspective.  You can answer a minimum of two of the following questions or you can answer all! (The instructions apply to everyone who is working towards the braving self badge) * Have you ever encountered a situation where you prioritized someone else's needs over your own? How did it make you feel? What could you have done differently to practice fairness towards yourself? * Describe a situation where you were fully yourself, uninhibited, and genuine. What were the outcomes? How does authenticity impact your sense of self-worth? * Can you think of additional examples of everyday situations where applying FAST principles can strengthen your confidence and relationships? Attention: At the end of the series, there will be a short quiz/form to fill out to avail of the badge and show that you have understood the content of the series and have applied the techniques shared. Over the next few weeks, please note down specific situations where you have applied the FAST method. It can even be a few words! This series is more of a workshop than consuming content, for it to benefit you, you will need to apply the methods/techniques and partake in the exercises.  Note: Due to the nature of some of these prompts, we encourage listeners to switch to a member account to participate in the series to benefit fully. If you prefer your listener account, you are welcome! But please maintain the boundaries expected of a person using a listener account and avoid detailed shares of your personal experiences.  ------------------------- This post is part of the Building Self-esteem series! You can find all the posts of the series linked here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/BuildingSelfesteemSeriesOngoingActive_321259/]
Building Self-esteem: Self-esteem and all that it impacts!
by Hope
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you are well. Time for the first post in our building self-esteem series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/General_2530/NewSeriesBuildingSelfesteem_320908]. Today is a bit of an introductory post to the topic, the intent is for you to better understand why working on your self-esteem is so important and how it can hold you back from a better life.  Think of self-esteem as your internal GPS. It helps you navigate life with confidence, knowing you're worthy and capable. It's how you see yourself - your strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between. When your self-esteem is high, you're like a superhero, ready to take on challenges and embrace new experiences. But when it's low, things get rocky. You might feel insecure, doubt yourself, and struggle to reach your full potential. How far can we go with a GPS that is not working well? What does this self-esteem impact? Pretty much everything * Relationships: With strong self-esteem, you attract healthy connections based on mutual respect and appreciation. You also communicate better, set boundaries, and avoid unhealthy attachments. * Mental health: Feeling good about yourself is your shield against negativity. You bounce back from setbacks easier, experience less stress and anxiety, and enjoy a more positive outlook on life. * Motivation and achievement: When you believe in yourself, you tackle goals with gusto. You're less afraid of failure, take risks, and keep striving for success. * Physical health: Self-esteem even influences your physical well-being. You're more likely to make healthy choices about food, exercise, and self-care when you value yourself.  This is all well but how do you know you can benefit from building self-esteem? Some of us already have an idea of where we stand in terms of our self-esteem, others don’t and that is okay. We can look at the symptoms/signs of low self-esteem to check if we may benefit from working on this area of life. I can not put enough emphasis on the fact that we are not trying to label ourselves with low self-esteem as the label is of no use to us, we are here to work on ourselves! This list is here to help you decide if working on your self-esteem can improve the quality of your life. Beyond that, there is little benefit to knowing your level of self-esteem.  Here are the signs of low self-esteem! * Negative self-talk: Tendency to engage in negative self-talk, putting themselves down and focusing on their flaws. They might say things like "I'm not good enough," "I'll never succeed," or "I'm a failure."  * Difficulty accepting compliments: have trouble accepting compliments, brushing them off, or deflecting them. They might believe the compliments are insincere or that they don't deserve them. This may not apply to you if you come from a culture where disregarding compliments is considered a part of humility/humbleness.  * People-pleasing: go to great lengths to please others, even if it means sacrificing their own needs or wants. They might do this because they believe they need to be liked or approved of to be worthy.  * Fear of failure: may be afraid to take risks or try new things because they're afraid of failing. They might avoid challenges or opportunities altogether, believing they're not capable of success.  * Social isolation: may withdraw from social activities and relationships because they don't feel like they belong or that they're not good enough for others.  * Poor self-care: may neglect their physical and emotional health. They might not eat healthy, exercise regularly, or get enough sleep. They may also engage in self-destructive behaviors, such as substance abuse or self-harm. If the list resonates with you. If half or more of it applies to you then this series may be of benefit to you. You can still participate even if you do not relate to any of the above points. It is perfectly okay and even encouraged to participate regardless of your self-esteem level.  Discussion Questions: * Based on the information presented, what aspect of building self-esteem are you most curious about or interested in learning more about?  * Think of someone you admire who is successful in their field (Can be a mentor, actor, influencer, etc) and reflect on how a lack of self-esteem could have impacted their career/success.  * If you could choose one area of your life where you'd like to see the most positive impact from building self-esteem, what would it be and why? You may answer a minimum of two questions or all of the above questions! (The instructions apply to everyone who is working towards the Braving Self badge and intends to partake in the whole series. If that is not you, you can participate however you like!) ------------------------- This post is part of the Building Self-esteem series! You can find all the posts of the series linked here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/BuildingSelfesteemSeriesOngoingActive_321259/]
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by KevinRodriguez
Last post
 Friday
...See more I don’t know what I can do to boost my self esteem, I have tried working out, talking to more people, but I still can’t manage to have a lot of confidence.
My friend called me fat, should I still be her friend
by Zeroseventeen017
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Hello again fellow 7 cup users it's me zero again, Today I was feeling really low about myself, namely about my weight. I was wearing a shirt black dress which I quite liked, and had bought recently. I had asked my friend if I looked good in it she had told me I looked cute, then I asked her if the dress made me look fat or if it was obvious at all I had gained or lost weight,. She replied with "well I mean you look better than last year" and I asked her what she meant by that, she in turn replied " well it's just that last you were more... Put together, wider, rounder" she had said that trying to go around the one word I new she was going to say so instead I said it... Because it's not supposed to hurt as much when I say it so I thought. I said " you mean fat.... " and she awkwardly looks away and says "yea but like no Offense" I just told her it was ok because I'm the type of person who hates conflict but I gotta say that hurt quite a lot, I never considered myself fat but maybe I am. I am 17 years old, 5'4, and I weigh 167 but most of that being muscle mass and I come from an obesse family, I work out all the time but I just can't seem to run off the weight... Maybe I am fat.
idk
by someoneidk468
Last post
 December 4th
...See more this is js for me to take out all the hatred i have for myself. i hate myself sm atp. so much. i wish i never existed. all my "friends", "family", everyone would be happier without me. i hate myself. no one cares. no one loves me. everyone hates me. im overdramatic. im hated. im left out always. im lonely. im no one. i deserve nothing. im stupid. ppl use me and laugh abt it. no one likes me. no one. im nobody. im literally no one. im hated. im lost. mom said right, "you lost friends not cuz of us, u lost them cuz of who u are. im ashamed of having a daughter like u". shes right. shes right. im lost. no one should *** reply to this saying im wrong n ppl love me n i dont realise,
I am the problem
by Icouldbebetter8923
Last post
 December 2nd
...See more Hi i don’t know how to love myself. I grew up with an “almond mom” I love her to death but she is a kind of person who responds to fear with anger. Ik she loves me and wants the best for me but that seems to justify her treating me poorly. I was a chubby kid and for as long as I can remember I was conscious of my weight. My mom always told me that no one would love me when I look like this. To her she was motivating me to loose weight but that really *** me up. I am so insecure and truly believe I am unloveable in this body. At 21 I have never been in a relationship, never been in a situationship, never been kissed, held hands or even seriously talked to a guy. It’s not that I have never been approached or hit on by guys, that’s not the issue. The issue is my immediate reaction to a guy showing interest in me is pure disgust. My disgust is not directed at the guy but for the guy for finding someone like me attractive. I don’t know what to do because I want to feel loved too. Ik nothing is ever going to change unless I work on myself but how? Ik I should probably try therapy but I just wanna know if anyone has felt like this and how they moved on.
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