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SummerOfCA
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Have healed a lot, have a lot further to go
PathStep 16 Compassion hearts157 Forum posts47 Forum upvotes48 Current upvotes48 Age GroupAdult Last activeDecember, 2024 Member sinceDecember 6, 2024
Bio
  • I'm a 39yo cis bi woman, happily married to another woman since 2012. 
  • Have six cats, and live in a very rural, peaceful area in the forests of Northern Alberta, Canada even though I was born and raised in Northern California.
  • Love reading/listening to books (99% of the time I read Lesbian Romances) and playing PC video games (my favs are rdr2, rimworld, oxygen not included, civ 6, stardew valley, grounded, minecraft, any star wars game) and watching shows/movies (West Wing, Bridgerton, Downton Abbey, Band of Brothers, Hamilton, etc)
  • Diagnosed with Complex PTSD and Complicated Grief, from severe childhood trauma, being completely shunned by my whole Jehovah's Witness family, and some other traumatic events involving losing some other very important people in my life from tragedies (car accident, suicide, ghosting after 10 yrs of close friendship).    
  • Deal with daily suicidal ideation (but i am safe and have no intention of self harming at all), depression, rejection phobias, social anxiety, agoraphobia, and physical mobility issues. 






Recent forum posts
aw Noni, she tries
General Support / by SummerOfCA
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I discovered this site a few days ago, and i'm loving it so far.  it has already been a great source of support and giving me a lot of hope and joy even in this short time.  I can see where it has room for improvement, but overall i think it's wonderfully done and with great intentions and heart and has so many wonderful people in this community. The only thing that gave me a little pause was poor Noni, especially since it was one of our tasks for the day to chat with her.   I'm not going to vent or complain or anything, i just simply wanted to post a little comparison and leave at that.  I'm sorry if this is not the right place or format for this.   Thanks for anyone who has read this and i hope you and yours have a great day! Higher Res Link - I uploaded the image to Google Drive [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1wYjZP_4P_4HTofHQkfoSIepz8bpaliLd/view?usp=sharing]
I want to tell you about "BOPs"
Motivation & Accountability / by SummerOfCA
Last post
 Saturday
...See more I struggle a lot with depression etc, and part of that is total lack of motivation/energy which isn't helped much by my physical mobility issues.  Some days it can be really hard for me to do anything at all.  One thing that has been working for me, is doing what we call BOPs, or little Bursts of Productivity.  it can be anything at all, and for as long or as short as needed, as long as i get moving.  I will usually either set my alarm for every hour, or get up every hour on the hour, and get up for 5-15 mins (sometimes i will go as much as forty mins etc), but even if i don't feel like doing anything, my BOP that hour might just be getting up and walking across the house to the kitchen, and that's all i have the energy for.  Anything at all just to keep me moving.   full disclosure - i still struggle doing BOPs at all on some days (and sometimes a lot of days in a row), but since i broke getting up into little "bite sized" bursts of productivity its been a lot more likely that i do them.   i hope other people are able to benefit from this, and find some hope in knowing you don't need to push yourself to do big goals, even just stretching can be a BOP 
7Cups Community December 2024 Playlist
Music & Dance / by SummerOfCA
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Hi all!  i'm brand new to the community (just joined yesterday) so thank you in advance for your time and patience and forgiveness if this is already something people do.   I was thinking it would be pretty cool to put together a playlist of music for December made up of song contributions by the 7 Cups Community that anyone is welcome to listen and enjoy! Any and All music is welcome (well, probably except for songs with negative themes), but besides that, anything else!  What does our community sound like this month? 🥰  (I use youtube music for all my playlists, if someone has a better suggestion for a platform please let me know, i'm open to pretty much anything except spotify.)  Youtube Music: 7 Cups Community December '24 Playlist [https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGTZ3LhxPC0bRHp9tbCN5ATmuX-8B_srP&si=MRM2ptZkr3vlZIBt]
@Matt003 would you like to be pen pals?
Pen Pals / by SummerOfCA
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more @Matt003 saw this was a thing on this website and was wondering if you were interested in being pen pals? 
You sound awesome, Tinywhisper!
Pen Pals / by SummerOfCA
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hi, @Tinywhisper11! i'm brand new to this website, but i've been seeing you all over so many posts and you just seem like an amazing person.  I'm not sure of the etiquette, but i was wondering if you would be interested in chatting with me, but if not, no worries (and really sorry if this is against etiquette), at the very least i wanted to let you know you were seen and appreciated by a random person today who you made smile quite a few times!  Thanks for your time if you've read this far and wish you and your loved ones the best!
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