Another girl at my school has a crush on my boyfriend. She’s been going out of her way to keep hurting me, bullying me, and humiliating me in front of him. I’m worried he’ll leave. What should I do?
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Hey there, I'm so proud of you for reaching out with your question.
Wow, someone is actually going out of their way to bully and humiliate you? That speaks so much about the kind of person they are.
You absolutely do not deserve such kind of behavior.
Is your boyfriend aware of the crush this person has on him? And have you tried communicating with him how you've been feeling about this kinda treatment from another girl who likes him? How does he feel about this situation and what does he plan to do about it?
To be honest, I feel like a conversation with your boyfriend about what's been going on might be helpful, so he knows what's up and how you've been feeling. And then a good partner would be someone who assures you, comforts you and reminds you that no third person can come between you both. A good partner thing to do would also be your partner maintaining some distance with the girl and informing her that he has a partner already and isn't okay with her behaving the way she is towards you.
You deserve someone who takes a stand for you, supports you, and empowers you to take a stand for yourself too. You deserve a love that makes you feel safe, secure, wanted, cared for, assured and loved.
I truly hope setting boundaries with that person and communicating openly with your partner can help improve this situation.
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Having a conversation with your boyfriend may be helpful to explain your worries and since you two are in a relationship he should support you and what you may be going through. Communication is key in a relationship because it clears up lies that he might later hear and stops the problem before the problem grows any more serious. Maybe saying something like "Hey, this has been happening, this girl is doing so and so and i just don't want you to believe what she's making me out to be" I'm sorry your going through something awful, you have my support if you ever need to talk.
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