Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

Sometimes people push loved ones away because they have a fear of "overwhelming" their loved ones with their problem. Sometimes it is a fear of putting their problems onto someone else. When you are depressed you feel that your issues are bigger than the world, so we protect our family and loved ones from this bigger than the world problems. Being depressed you know the weight of your issues and you feel ashamed and saddened to put that on someone else.

Depressed people often feel like they don't deserve the love they get from their loved once, and thus they push them away.

Because they feel they don't deserve to be helped. In this situations it is important that their loved ones are there for them and not to leave their side. It could really help them to realize they do have someone that cares about them and it could make them feel better.

We don't feel connected with that person. We don't feel like talking and we don't feel that they benefit us in any way, they just make us want to be more isolated from the world.

From what some of my friends who deal with depression has told me it's a way to keep themselves for getting hurt even more. They find the less feelings and people in their life the less hurt they receive from it. The selfishness for their own mental health kind of comes into play.

The reason why depressed people push their loved ones away is because they are scared to be judged.

Sometimes people with depression just want to be alone, because they don't feel like socializing. Because of this they tend to push people away. This is unhealthy however, and can make matters worse. It is important not to give up on someone you think may be depressed, even if they seem to not want you around. Tell them how you feel, and encourage them to get help.

They don't do it on purpose I can promise you that love.I have my bad days and my good days.On my bad days I say harmful and do regretful things to my love ones that I don't mean to do.If you have someone with depression if your life just try your very best to understand them try to sit down and talk to them.

Sometimes the expression "you need to love yourself before you can love others" rings true in relationships. Loving others fills a void that you feel within yourself, and sometimes it can be overwhelming for the other.

Well, I know from experience that it's not something you can always control. Depression causes you to feel lonely and misunderstood, too different to fit in with anyone else. You start believing that no one will ever understand you or the way you think. Or you could be thinking that they're better off without you, so you pull away. Most of the time I just wasn't in the mood to talk or found the conversation trivial. I felt a little out of place, so I rather chose to be alone. Also, I often didn't have the energy to attend parties or events with friends and always made up an excuse not to go, which just made the rift even bigger.

There are many reason why someone dealing with depression might push loved ones away. These include: - feeling unworthy - not wanting to be a burden - wanting to keep their depression secret - denying their depression - lacking the energy to socialise - wanting to deal with it alone - negative past experiences seeking support - not knowing how to share their experiences - feeling as if seeking support is futile - fear of in-patient treatment If your loved one is dealing with depression and pushing you away, whatever the reason, simply letting them know that you're there for them can still be a big help. Consider whether they're a risk to themselves, the nature of your relationship, and their personality, then use your own judgment to decide how you can best support them. This might mean being patient, giving them some space, and letting them come to you when they're ready, or it could mean being more direct and addressing their depression with a greater sense of urgency. However you choose to support your loved one, remember to take care of yourself along the way.

because they want to be alone. and they even feel lonely when in a crowd. this is why they push others away. but be there for them! the truth is they really need someone to be their crying shoulder.

They are scared to seek help from people. Me personally I was depressed and I seek out counseling and my life is better than ever.

So many reasons, but they're unique to each person... fear of other's rejection, fear of not being loved, not being understood..

Because they think they are the reason everyone is unhappy and is having problems and therefore feel that everyone would be better of without them.

From what I've known, a lot of people that are depressed push others away. This is because they don't want them to feel the pain that the individual is feeling. Somebody once told me that if you do not transform your pain, you will transfer it. By pushing others away you are transferring your pain to them though, even though you might be feeling that you were keeping them from your pain. Your loved ones are there for you and should be a positive part of your depression and moving forward.

Depressed people often lose hope in everything. They give up on everything, including relationships. They feel like they’ve tried so hard to keep going that they eventually stop trying. They don’t want to make any effort in a relationship. They lose the meaning of their life and everyone in it. They like to be left alone, isolated, because they don’t possess the energy to deal with anyone. They stop caring and retreat into a shell. They feel like a burden on everyone. They can’t feel happy and they find it taxing to have to fake a smile or laugh all the time. So they prefer being quiet.

This is how they feel like. They don't want them around, or they may have hurt them. Actually many various reasons. No need to take it personally, don't give up on your loved ones who are suffering from depression.

oh, i can go all night for this. Starting with...because they don' t think they deserve anyone, when in reality the truth is that they are the one who need it the most. They push you away to save you from the trouble they think they are causing you. In most cases they do it..to protect themselves, to protect themselves from the pain they have to endure "when" you'll leave and yes, I said when and not if, because they are very certain that you will leave and that's why they make a wall around themselves. I know, being close to them is not easy for the ones who are being pushed away..but if you understand why they are doing it and if you can assure them that it's not going to happen...well then congrats, you just earned a new friend :)

Depressed people think they don't deserve love from anyone, that they are useless and noone can love them anyways. So they push people away in order to save themselves from their future heartbreak cause according to them, people are just acting like they love you even though they know deep inside people love them but it is very hard to accept that when you have so much self-loathing. Or thats what i feel, not sure how it is for others.

A lot of depressed people don't feel understood. There is a stigma on any kind of mental illness, so it's difficult to talk about being depressed. Sometimes when people are open about their depression, others don't take it seriously enough or may try to minimize the depressed person's problems. Loved ones may not intentionally do this or even realize they are doing it. Eventually, it just becomes easier for the one who is depressed to live a life of isolation. It's hard for someone who feels depressed to see others talking and laughing as they normally do, or certain subjects may trigger their depression to get worse. The people who are not depressed may feel as though they are walking on eggshells, so they pull back as well. There are many different factors to consider in this situation, and it's best to avoid thinking that it is anyone's "fault." Those who are dealing with someone who is depressed can find ways to take better care and adjust their behaviors and words/topics of conversation to better accommodate the person; the one who is depressed can learn not to take things personally and nurture themselves without having to necessarily hide away from everyone. There is a bit of balance and compromise involved in everything. Each party has to be willing to cooperate and avoid shutting down on people.

Because they don't want to or they don't want others to get hurt. They think that other people don't like them and that they only pretend to.

because they are afraid that they will also leave them. Like everyone else did and it hurt so they just shut everyone out

There are many feelings a person with depressions experiences. Some common characteristics are sadness, a loss of interest in regular activities, and despair. Withdrawal from loved ones often occurs as a result of feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. They may not want to burden their loved ones with their problems, and therefore withdraw emotionally from family members. Or they simply may not have the energy or capacity to explain how they are feeling or deal with others’ reactions. Being there and available to listen non-judgmentally is an essential first step in supporting a loved one who is experiencing depression.

They feel like there alone its very hard to explain they feel that they just need to be alone to figure them selfs out

Some people tend to isolate themselves when they are feeling depressed.

We push people away because they don't know what its like, and they assume and don't understand Anything

Because the thing, they do not deserve their love. They think that thet do not real love them. The feel unuseless, unwanted. But in reality they are not. The are not alone

Many times when people are depressed they are churning in emotions of unworthiness and guilt. They feel that they are the blame for everything that has gone wrong in their life. So many times they feel that they are a burden and don't want to be a bother to anyone else.

Depressed people push loved ones away because they feel ashamed and embarrassed. They feel alone when they are surrounded with people they love and even though they want to be alone they feel worse.