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Our relationship changed.. Are we going to last forever as promised ?

watermonlemondrop 13 hours ago

I am very new to this, I have never shared anything about my life. Right now I just feel that I need to vent to someone, anyone..


Too many changes, too many changed apartments and too much work got us here.


My husband and I are together for 3 years now. We have a 2 year old boy together.

We used to travel, laugh, have healthy and understanding conversations. Last year and a half feels like I do not know him. Who is this man? Inpatient, aggressive, inconsiderate..

I found myself worried about me and my son, did I make the right decision with him being in our life?

He is more concerned about other people that surround us than his own family. How did we get here? I have to ask minimum 3 times for something to get done around the house. He is always tired, although we both work and have same chores. Our kid doesn’t have the best connection with him because of his behavior and many times he is just scared and doesn’t want to interact with his dad. I am a kid that grew up with separated parents. Divorce is something that I do not want for us, I don’t want my son to have a broken family , 2 houses, 2 beds and a broken heart. I always felt that way, I never knew where I belong and that lasted.


How do we fix this? How do we repair us? How can I help you and reverse you into the man that I fell in love with?

Can we get better? I have so many questions. I feel depressed and hopeless. I don’t have many people that I can lean on. It is just me and my father. Never had a good relationship with my mother, it was on and off. Till I figured I do not want drama in my life and I was done.

So no support system, we both work, take care of the kid and build a life together somehow.. I feel like I am failing at this, I am failing as a mother, wife as a person.

I lack motivation almost everyday about basic life things. I feel depressed, unfulfilled, emotionally drained. I really think of going to a therapy or doing a couple therapy. I just have so many uncured issues from years and years ago that I need to fix. I need to fix the generational trauma first and then move on..