Confused and Overwhelmed
Really long story short, my ex and I divorced 2 years ago. He was emotionally abusive. He went to counseling and seemed to have grown a lot. I stopped keeping my distance as things felt safer, but then he asked about going on a date. I haven't agreed yet, but I feel like as he is around more often I see old behavior coming back and now I'm super conflicted. We have 2 kids, it would be good for them IF it worked, but now idk if the changes I did see are really permanent.
@Progress2024 that's a difficult situation. But you were hurt once by this guy, are you willing to put you and your kids in potentially the same situation? Gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ whatever you decide, we are here to back you up all the way ❤ good luck sweetie ❤
I understand what you're saying. It can be tempting to give someone you have been close to and that you have children with a second chance. But what would actually be best for you? And what would actually be best for your kids? If you are already picking up signs if his old behaviour, then that kinda seems like abit of a red flag I would say. The fact you are "super conflicted" is not necessarily a bad thing. In that it could mean you feel that something is just not quite right. Which seems like is your gut telling you that it's not. Not that I would encourage someone to focus on past emotional abuse, but I think it can help to reflect on what he may have put you through. And if you would recommend to a friend that their ex would be a good choice after being emotionally abusive. Just wanted to share, as I wouldn't want you to put yourself through that again. I know I allowed myself to go through it multiple times. And it was a mistake each time. Until I finally said "I'm done" and walked away from that relationship to protect myself.
