Dressing issue in relationship
Hi im in a relationship for the past 5months , i am very happy with him but now he doesn’t want me to wear tight jeans, he says it makes him uncomfortable, i dint change my dressing style i was like this only before, we are open with things. But this makes me sad , i actually dress up for myself but he says he doesn’t want to see any men staring at me, so thats why he asked to me to do this. I said him im comfortable with my dressing and he asked me why am i not comfortable with loose jeans etc that means im here to show off , what should i do?
We were on the edge of breakup but now he said he is ready to change his perspective,I want him to understand me and i should be able to wear whatever i want . What i can do for this? Someone please help me.
@pioneeringEyes2217,
he should accept you for who you are. If your dress style makes him feel uncomfortable, that is something he needs to deal with, and not by asking you to dress differently. Never change because someone else has insecurities.
@pioneeringEyes2217
It is sad to hear that the dress issue is coming back in your relationship, making you feel insecure and confused.
There might be some prejudice or tighter standards in some societies (e.g. Muslim), but I believe that by wearing jeans you are certainly not pushing anything too far.
Frankly, I'd feel alarmed by the direction it is going. A week ago it was "no tight or sleeveless dress". Now it is "no tight jeans". What is next week? "No lipstick" or "no smile"? An then, in a year or two: "Why don't you look like a woman?!".
This is a self-destructive practice, used by some people, and I believe you should not let it.
The thing I would be also concerned about: How much you think your connection is based on physical attraction? Isn't your relationship depending too much on that aspect, with the emotional side not keeping up?
