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Healing loneliness with mindfulness
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
Last post
12 hours ago
...See more Check in for December 9th to December 11th 2024 How do we heal ourselves when we are lonely. People can be alone and not feel lonely. More people are dealing with loneliness than ever before.  Being alone vs being lonely: You can be surrounded with friends or family and still feel loneliness. Loneliness is more about  the amount of time you spend with people you love or like but not spending a lot of time with them. Truth is we need to be around people, we need to share our lives with others. When we are around people is builds our healthy life.  Letting go of loneliness: Reconnect with yourself  You can do this by either doing a breathing exercise or meditation. This will relax your mind from spinning around with things and help you reconnect to who you actually are. Begin loving who you really are: Do you love the person you are? If you shook you head no then you need to look deep down into your soul and find out why. Then we need to fix the negatives to become positive and live a happy life. A good exercise for this is journal writing, write down what you do not like and find ways to fix it so your happy.  Being alone vs being around people: Sometimes when we are alone we think of others and wish they wee there to keep us company. Sometimes when your out with friends you may wish you stayed home for some reason.  What steps can we take to have more or less time around others? How to do reconnect with yourself ?  Self care for loneliness:  ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. @4551SP @adventurousBranch3786 @Admirablerainbow2825 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @amiablePeace77@asherb281 @avistaco @CaringSub @CatHanderOutNoah  @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @DragonspanAnge @EchoOrAsh @etherealize @Falcon05 @fearlessMaple308 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @frankPark1546 @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @hardworkingBeechwood6063 @healingsoul4892 @iloveyouxx @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @mytwistedsoul @nessapressure05 @NurseJose @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @PopPunkPrincess17 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @sincereGrapefruit83  @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @spongbobishappy @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @Tinywhisper11 @toughApricot223 @warmMemory6263 @VKlistening @yellowPineapple3652 @yzzil @Zeraphim 
Summary discussion for week 49
50 & Over Community / by pamharley003
Last post
9 hours ago
...See more Coping with Emotional Challenges :  How we cope with emotional challenges differ from person to person, for some it may be using coping skills, mindfulness, meditation and so on. These challenges can affect not only our physical health but our mental health also. The emotional challenges can be from being upset, fear of something, anger towards somethings and frustrations. What are some ways you may cope with a stressful situation ? How to connect with our inner voice 50+: We can connect to our inner voice through gaining clarity, making wiser decision of things and living a more productive and fulfilled life style. To develop a stronger inner voice is by setting boundaries for ourselves. We listen to what our body and mind is saying to us. How do you connect with the inner voice you have? Ways to improve our mental health to live a better life :  Our mental well being is important to us all because this is how we live a stable life without worries. 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summary of discussion for December 2nd & 5th 2024
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
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Friday
...See more Discussion mindfulness Monday - 12/2/24 Mindfulness and Dealing with Life Mindful living is about living with awareness in the present moment. It’s about being open-hearted, non-judgmental and allowing things to be as they are and acting compassionately toward ourselves and our experience. When you are mindful in your life, you are paying attention to what is happening, both internally and outside of yourself, in the present moment. How do you use mindfulness with difficult emotions? How do you practise self-compassion? 3:26 PM  Thursday - 12/5/24 Mindfulness - Emotions and feelings Emotions are our body’s natural response to various stimuli. When you experience fear or joy, for instance, that’s your emotion at work. So in short, emotions are natural responses to stimuli and feelings are generated from mental thoughts. Which emotions do you experience on a regular basis? What helps you to deal with your emotions? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. @4551SP @adventurousBranch3786 @Admirablerainbow2825 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @amiablePeace77@asherb281 @avistaco @CaringSub @CatHanderOutNoah  @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @DragonspanAnge @EchoOrAsh @etherealize @Falcon05 @fearlessMaple308 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @frankPark1546 @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @hardworkingBeechwood6063 @healingsoul4892 @iloveyouxx @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @mytwistedsoul @nessapressure05 @NurseJose @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @PopPunkPrincess17 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @sincereGrapefruit83  @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @spongbobishappy @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @Tinywhisper11 @toughApricot223 @warmMemory6263 @VKlistening @yellowPineapple3652 @yzzil @Zeraphim 
Finding comfort through grief using mindfulness
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
Last post
2 days ago
...See more Check In for : December 2nd to December 4th 2024 Last week I had to put our family fur baby of 12 years down because she was having problems walking, her hips were giving out . Some know I own a pit bull named harley davidson, she is our world and it was too much seeing her in pain. Here is the last picture of her waiting at the vet.  How do we find comfort through grief: Grief is associated with losing a loved one, relatives, friends and pets. It can also mean losing a job we were doing for years or a long marriage or relationship dating someone. Grief is a mixture of a lot of feelings and emotions.  The path of grief is a personal journey we all go through it some hit ourselves more than others, it is how to deal with it, we are all different in handling things. There are times when grief can come back after experiencing it first time around. The following is how to handle grief when we are experiencing it . Common ways grief may show up: Emotional rollercoaster: The range of emotions we face are anger, sadness, guilt, confusion and even relief. No one is the same how we handle these emotions may be different person to person. Physical symptoms: Grief can also effect our physical well being. It can bring fatigue making us want to sleep our worries away. It can also hinder our daily activities to where we do not want to do anything, headaches and stomach aches. Social withdrawal: Grief can make us not want to be around anyone during social functions. It also can make it hard to talk about to others, so we distance ourselves. What are some ways you handle grief? What emotions are you feeling when dealing with it? There are a lot more different ways grief affects us it is how we manage to handle them to feel a little better. ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. @4551SP @adventurousBranch3786 @Admirablerainbow2825 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @amiablePeace77@asherb281 @avistaco @CaringSub @CatHanderOutNoah  @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @DragonspanAnge @EchoOrAsh @etherealize @Falcon05 @fearlessMaple308 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @frankPark1546 @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @hardworkingBeechwood6063 @healingsoul4892 @iloveyouxx @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @mytwistedsoul @nessapressure05 @NurseJose @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @PopPunkPrincess17 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @sincereGrapefruit83  @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @spongbobishappy @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @Tinywhisper11 @toughApricot223 @warmMemory6263 @VKlistening @yellowPineapple3652 @yzzil @Zeraphim 
Meditation using our heart
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
Last post
November 26th
...See more Check In November 24th to November 26th 2024 A regular routine of Meditation  can help improve our heart health. What is good for our minds is also good for our heart. When we improve our meditation we are looking our for our body with our mind, spirit and health all together. Maintaining a healthy diet, enough sleep and exercise we can go along way. When we practice mindfulness it is not just sitting on a chair or on an exercise mat it is also working the body through tai chi, walking, running and swimming. Meditation helps us relieve stress and keep our breathing in a slower motion and not fast and hard.  There are many different styles and approaches to meditation, but here is a simple routine to begin with. * Sit quietly and close your eyes. Breathe slowly. * Relax all of your muscles, beginning with your feet, legs, and thighs. * Shrug your shoulders and roll your neck to the left and then right. * On each exhalation, say the word "peace" out loud or to yourself. * When your thoughts wander (and they will), don't get discouraged. Simply go back to repeating the pattern. * Continue for five to 10 minutes. What are some ways you exercise to have a healthy heartbeat?  Are you a person who exercises inside your home or outside? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. @4551SP @adventurousBranch3786 @Admirablerainbow2825 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @amiablePeace77@asherb281 @avistaco @CaringSub @CatHanderOutNoah  @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @DragonspanAnge @EchoOrAsh @etherealize @Falcon05 @fearlessMaple308 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @frankPark1546 @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @hardworkingBeechwood6063 @healingsoul4892 @iloveyouxx @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @mytwistedsoul @nessapressure05 @NurseJose @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @PopPunkPrincess17 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @sincereGrapefruit83  @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @spongbobishappy @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @Tinywhisper11 @toughApricot223 @warmMemory6263 @VKlistening @yellowPineapple3652 @yzzil @Zeraphim 
How resetting our minds works for us
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
Last post
November 22nd
...See more Check In for : November 21st to November 24th 2024 When we reset our minds does not mean we are erasing hardship it means we are navigating gracefully.  In the fast paced world we are living in sometimes we feel overloaded and tired. By accepting what we are going through we can reduce any stress and begin to embrace a peaceful way. Resilience is how we recover from things and are able to move on. We reshape and reframe our minds and fix a situation back to being normal. Every so often things have us feel like we are in a tornado. Things begin to get unclear and we have to take a moment to regroup  How can we restart our mind here is a following ways: Accept the chaos - Recognize what is happening and embrace it because we can overcome this. Embrace flexibility - embrace what may be going on, feel the emotions we are in and practice cognitive flexibility. This when we recognize what is happening and prepare ourselves to change it.  Honor Rhythms - Find a way to  support our mental and physical well being. Find a meaning - sometimes spiritually getting in our mind can help us cope. By practicing meditation along with mindfulness can help us become better. How do you deal with setbacks? How do you cope with pressure? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. @4551SP @adventurousBranch3786 @Admirablerainbow2825 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @amiablePeace77@asherb281 @avistaco @CaringSub @CatHanderOutNoah  @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @DragonspanAnge @EchoOrAsh @etherealize @Falcon05 @fearlessMaple308 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @frankPark1546 @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @hardworkingBeechwood6063 @healingsoul4892 @iloveyouxx @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @mytwistedsoul @nessapressure05 @NurseJose @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @PopPunkPrincess17 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @sincereGrapefruit83  @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @spongbobishappy @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @Tinywhisper11 @toughApricot223 @warmMemory6263 @VKlistening @yellowPineapple3652 @yzzil @Zeraphim 
Summary Discussion The Fear of Aging
50 & Over Community / by pamharley003
Last post
November 29th
...See more Last week in the discussion We spoke about the fear of aging> I would like to add a little more to it of the 5 fears of aging and what they mean. As we all begin to get older we are faced with some concerns for ourselves. I know personally I am going to be 60 soon and wonder do I have my life where it needs to be and to what means can I make to make sure my life ones are taken care of. There are 5 main fear to people as we get old: 1. Losing independence - We fear as we grow older the need to ask family or friends for help because we can not do things like we did when we were younger. We may ask for help around the inside and outside of our homes because we can not bend or carry things we need to do in keeping our homes looking good.  We may ask in helping to take care of ourselves if we are living with our children because we grew to old to live alone. We may have a hard time cooking or just plain taking care of our hygiene.  2. Deteriorating health - As we begin to age we may be faced with medical bot mental and physical health problems. We may have a stroke enabling us not to function with daily activities. We may have a heart attack , cancer or alzeheimer disease. 3. Loneliness - When we live alone because our children grew old enough to leave home or lost a spouse to passing away we experience being sad to be alone. Our children may live in another star or country and seeing them like we did can cause loneliness. 4. Financial insecurities - As we age we begin to worry if we will have money to survive as the economy is changing, forcing more demand on rent, gas for vehicles, food increases and medication increases.  We begin to wonder if our Social Security will be enough to make ends meet or will we have to take on part time jobs just to survive. 5. Death - not a topic I want to think about but it is a way of life and we need to make sure our finances are in place if we should leave it to others to take care of. Many begin to feel if there will be pain and suffering experienced when we do pass.  How can we deal with these fears mentioned above, we can keep a healthy intake of our lives. We can eat and exercise more to prolong a healthy life style. We begin to take hold of our emotional help speaking to family or friends maybe even seeing a therapist to help us cope with it. We can get involved in community activities to keep our time going and not be lonely. 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Accepting your beautiful self being
Mindfulness Center / by pamharley003
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November 23rd
...See more Check In: November 18th to November 20th 2024 When you hear the word beauty what does it mean to you? Beauty is the outward appearance.  If we are told we are too fat or negative compliments then we lower our self confidence.  Society lies to us because our beauty comes from within ourselves. Some people show their beauty on the outside while being negative from the inside.  We have been taught through out our lives that the appearance does not matter. When you think beauty think of how you feel simply being you. No one is perfect we all make mistakes in life. When I hear the word beauty I think of beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Beauty comes from my inside, my heart felt commitments to other. Sure I may not be pretty to others on the outside but my heart is their for anyone even those who are not nice to me. What are 3 things that make you beautiful? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. @4551SP @adventurousBranch3786 @Admirablerainbow2825 @Agent22 @alexandralee @AllAboutThePeace11 @amiablePeace77@asherb281 @avistaco @CaringSub @CatHanderOutNoah  @communicativeJet616 @dapperBeach8823 @daydreammemories @DragonspanAnge @EchoOrAsh @etherealize @Falcon05 @fearlessMaple308 @FloraBelle @ForestZen @frankPark1546 @GentleHealingInitiative @Goldenfox2009 @greenScarf6235 @hardworkingBeechwood6063 @healingsoul4892 @iloveyouxx @indigoBeechwood597 @infiniteforever12 @InsightfulPhoenix @Invisibility101 @JarofSeeds627 @jaywalkk @Kickan75 @kindRiver6 @kivesh @Littlejoy11 @livinggadget @mytwistedsoul @nessapressure05 @NurseJose @NotAllHere713 @onwardforevenmore @pamharley003 @PeacefulBeach3454 @peacefulDovex @PopPunkPrincess17 @Rainboho @rebeccastgo @sincereGrapefruit83  @sky2Ocean20 @Snowy00 @spongbobishappy @sunshineBeauty5741 @Swordpsalm @tallZebra8032 @Tinywhisper11 @toughApricot223 @warmMemory6263 @VKlistening @yellowPineapple3652 @yzzil @Zeraphim 
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